Haircut Wisdom

I got a haircut the other day but did not understand what happpened until I slept on it!

The barber did not ask me  how I wanted my hair cut; he went ahead and cut my hair and beard and made me look exactly like him!  When I looked in the mirror, I realized he did not honor my requests to cut it the way I wanted, but he cut it to suit himself!

Good grief!

What is that abou?

Do we do that with others?  Do we shape them in OUR image, or do we allow them to express their own individuality and to become what they want us to be?

Today I believe I willl cut the rest of it to be how I want it to be…maybe this sounds strange, but did we not at one time talk about how one ought to take “the road not taken, to find his/her own way in life?” 

Some of the most extraordinary people in this life find their own way, find their own “path with a heart:”  If I direct you to find MY path, then am I doing you any real favor?  What about YOUR dreams, YOUR sense of what is right or wrong…what is that all about?  In my way of thinking, if we have the serenity to accept what we cannot change, the courage to change what we can – and, more importantly – the wisdom to know the difference, then we ALL win.

The concept of :”paying it forward” (to my way of thiinking) is that in a nutshell., 

When I look at some people who are living in this world, some (and not all) have had the ability to help others shine, to be “all that they can be” and to do so in response to a higher directive, a sense of right and wrong…to honor boundaries or the place where I stop and you start.

If I go across that line and get into your face, tell you what to do with your life, how am I doing you a favor? 

The most brilliant men I’ve read about have done that and are doing that:  helping people to find their dreams but coaching them (as “mentors, perhaps) to follow a path with a heart that is intuitively and morally appropriate,.

This world may seem at times to be a terrible mess, but I do believe in my heart that it will cone around and will find what we call “harmony.” 

We have the tools and technology to fix darn near anything and to do it better the next time if we only learn from our mistakes and perhaps listen to a bit of coaching from sonebody who has “been there, made mistakes and learned from them.”:

Our children are our hope for the future,.  Oe good old boy (Kahlil Gibran) said that “our children are our arrows into the future.” 

I believe that with all my heart and soul today.  I believe in finding the one right partner for us in life (a :”soul mate”). 

I do not believe in changing partners in life every so often just because it suits our needs to have a prettier partner.  Beauty is and always will be that which comes from the heart…the way I see it, your skin color is just that…only “skin deep.”

If you are black, green, yellow…whatever your “skin clothes” happen to be, so what:  I see a black person as only having a better than than I do (grin)…  But maybe that’s not true for you….not yet perhaps. 

I came from Canada and we just have a different way of walking up there in some ways.  We end our statemnents with “eh” in a way that will tell us whether you understood us before we go on.  That’s just how we are “wired,” and maybe it’s a cultural thihg,for Canadiens, but so be it.

I’ve studeied the careers of some extraordinary people and have come to the conclusion that we need them…they are our :”point men” (to use military terminhology).. 

Without them to guide a patrol ihno danger, the entre platoon is in jeopardy.  Without people that we have been lucky ernough to have had on our planet in history (and in the present time,m thank God), we are in big trouble.

Robvert Schuller said that “tough times don’t last but tough people do.”  And the cliché of “be all you can be” makes just such inbfinite sense.  But, then, I can only see it from my side of the street – I don’t see some perspectives oithers have but I am cursed (and blessed) with my own perspective).

There is a “higher ground” that I hope to find, hope to be able to encourage some people (youths, in particular) to look at and consider. 

The kids in recovery where I am, particularly the young ladies  these days) are extraordinarily attractive, but that’s neat…but I’m wired different and I am now happy that I am.

Cat Stevens sang that he was :”looking for a hard-headed woman, one to ‘help him do his best.”  And he concludes his song with, “and if I find that hard-headed woman, I know the rest of ny life will be blessed,.:”

I’ve ended a relationship with a lady I;’ve known since the mid-1990’;s – a lovely lady I will always love and cherish the memories of the time we had together, but it is finally time to move on…but I’ve gone through an extended period of being by myself and not being with just anybody…and until I find that certain right person, I’m going to just enjoy loving others – and females – by being “hanky without the panky.”

So that’s what I learned by sitting still and letting another person tell me what was right.  I want to find oiut what is right, but doi so with an eye and intuition directed toward “my higher power” so I know what is right, truly right.

“God, grant me the serenity accept what I cannot change, the courage to change what I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.:” 

If I let my addictions drive me, then I will be forever at their beck and call.  I thiink we need to be our own “gurus” – but, again, how can I tell you what to do and be so sure that I am right and you are wrong? 

I think that certain truths are self-evident, and that type of thihing began this experiment, our Unbited States of America, and I hope and pray we again will find the balance of powers in our governnent (and in ourselves) that will take us forward to our dreams,.

That llne will forever live in ny nenory, :”this is a small step for man but a giant step for mankind..”

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